Because I Said So: A Season for Change
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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

A Season for Change

A lot of my life revolves around my boyfriend of six years, Josh.

So, when the news came that he would no longer have a job at the end of the month, things got serious, fast. Sure, we aren't married, we don't have any MAJOR responsibilities, and we are young, but this is still quite the big deal to me.

You hear about people losing their jobs due to budget cuts, but you never think it will or could ever happen to you.

While I think I'm more upset over him not having a job anymore than he is, it can't be easy on him. Sure he'll have a significant amount of pay after his last day, but he still has to do the legwork of finding a job or figuring out what to do next all outside of his comfort zone.

It hit me like a ton of bricks, things were going to change and fast, whether I liked it or not. Everything that I thought I had planned out went out the window.

Where would he find a job? Would he go to grad school? Does he have that kind of money? What if he moves out of state? How would we do long distance? We've never done long distance. What about all of our plans to buy a house, get married...? When? Why? So many burning questions.

Not knowing the answers is killing me.

In this short period of time, I've learned a few things. One, to not be so demanding. My needs/wants aren't the only things that matter. We are a team. Two, money can't be spent frivolously. And finally (the most important), support and trust are the number one things I can offer. 

It's important to note that in this season of our life, this change isn't necessarily a bad thing. Really, it's a blessing in disguise. Josh didn't want to work in retail any longer and now he can't/won't!

I think this was God's way of giving him a nudge kick in the butt to get moving on to better things. And God's way of telling me that I am NOT in control of  anything. Now, the opportunities are endless! He could go back to grad school and get the MBA or get a job wherever he wants.

Funny how these things work.


  1. That is so scary, no matter what phase of like you are in when it happens. Prayers for an amazing new job!

  2. Losing a job is always scary -- change is scary! But no worries... The job market is improving these days! I'm confident Josh will find something that he loves more than retail! Best of luck!

  3. Yikes! This sort of change is very scary but you will be surprised you learn to adapt and survive (Trust me, I've been there, done that.). You guys will be just fine just love and support each other and it will work out in the end.

  4. Prayers for new opportunities to come yours and Josh's way! Change can be scary but trust in God and he will guide you through it! xoxo

  5. These changes are hard! But I love that you are looking at it from the view that God is pushing him in a better direction. I love it!

    1. It's the only way I'm able to keep it all together :)

  6. My hubby got laid off the this week, he got laid off a year ago as well - it is something that happens in Tech in the San Francisco Bay Area but it doesn't make it easier to deal with or accept! I hope your boyfriend finds something soon. You figured out the most important thing already - be there to support him!